According to the scientists and authors of Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Change, our social surroundings weigh heavy on our habit forming ability. One important tactic they use in their habit changing (or forming) is knowing who’s a Friend and who’s an Accomplice. These two types of people shape your bad habit fighting ability. A Friend can help you break the bad habit and be an aid in your path to success (eat better, quit smoking, exercise). An Accomplice, on the other hand, abet that exact bad habit you are trying to break. Think of your wrong doings as a “crime” and they are the accomplices to the crime.
These Accomplices are not always so easy to see. Think of the actions you need to partake in to help break your bad habit. If your goal is a healthier lifestyle you may have identified that grabbing drinks after work with a co-worker derails your best efforts. It is sold to you as a “couple of harmless drinks”. BUT, we know that turns into more drinks, poor nutrition choices at that point, and a headache the next morning that keeps you in bed instead of the gym. Your co-worker, who might be a great person, has no idea they are hurting your ability to reach your goals is an Accomplice. The more time you are with an Accomplice, the less likely you’ll change your bad habit. This can make things difficult. You enjoy spending time with them but you now realize that to become a better “YOU” things can’t continue the same way with the Accomplice. Decisions, decisions.
Identify your Friends and Accomplices and make the right decisions. Failure to realize how influential these social pillars are may be the reason, after many attempts, why you have not been able to change long-term.